Just be YOU!

Hello friends!
Wow! It's been a busy few weeks! 
Today has been a day of great thoughts for me... Had a few revelations (which maybe i'll share some other time) but for now i want to share something that sparked a tangent in me today. LOL
I was texting with someone today and we were talking about sharing thoughts with others. And it was brought up that sometimes they don't like to share their thoughts because they don't want the person they are sharing with to consider them weird or an idiot... This is what I said to that comment:
"My thought is if they can't accept you for who you really are - crazy ideas, insecurities and all (cuz face it we all have those) you don't really need that person in your life"


In short... JUST BE YOU!!


“You are you. Now, isn't that pleasant?”
― Dr. Seuss


I've known many people over the years that i could see how unhappy they were because they were trying so hard to please others whether it be their parents, their significant others or their friends. I'm not going to lie, I struggle with this at times too... but a few things always bring me back to being ok. 


The first being that no matter what even if no one else does, God loves me. This is not meant to sound preachy, but it is a part of who I am and what I believe. Sometimes i have a hard time with it, but i look at everything in my life and it's not all coincidence, it's not a fluke. I may not see the big picture or where the road is going but i know everything will work out. (i may grow impatient with it sometimes but again, that's for another day lol) 

Jeremiah 29:11

New International Version (NIV)

¹¹ For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

I am who I am because of everything I've gone through. Every sadness, every heart ache, every injury emotional and physical, scar over and I become stronger and smarter for it. And that goes for you too! I refuse to be ashamed of what I've gone through and I don't regret the decisions i've made in my life... we're meant to grow and evolve not stay stagnate or go back to the past! If you feel you're going in a negative direction, it needs to be dealt with one way or another... talk it out with a friend or a professional. Whatever you need to move forward!


Life is 10% what happens to you, and 90% how you respond to it.—Unknown


And last? The people that truly love you and accept you will always be there and support you! They know that you aren't perfect, that you'll make mistakes, do crazy things when you think you're in love, that you'll say and do things when you're hurting, and sometimes say odd ball things that just don't make any sense to them, but make perfect sense to you, and that you'll have moments that you're not yourself... and at the end of the day they still stand by you. They may look at you a little funny, they may not know how to handle what you're saying and/or they may shake their heads, shrug, give you a hug or a pat on the head and just say ok. But they will still be there, they will be honest with you, help you put the pieces back together if needed, and support you. 


“A friend is someone who gives you total freedom to be yourself-and especially to feel, or not feel. Whatever you happen to be feeling at any moment is fine with them. That's what real love amounts to - letting a person be what he really is.” 
― Jim Morrison

Those that call you weird, or an idiot or any other type of name or walk away because they can't look past their own... issues .... those kind of people are not healthy to have around you! And why have those types of people in your life? what a drag!!


Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can somehow become great. 
Mark Twain


We are meant to fly! To be lifted up by those around us and soar! Who knows what you could achieve? 
If you allowed yourself to just be you, how much happier would you be? To not have to live in fear or shame? To not have to feel like you're trying so hard to fit in all the time?
People can pick up on when you're trying too hard... then you feel like even more of an outcast!! 
Even if you think people can't handle who you really are... what does that say for your friendship/relationship?


“Those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind.” 
― Bernard M. Baruch


BE YOU!!!

“Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life, but define yourself.” 
― Harvey Fierstein


Do you love yourself? 
Are you comfortable in your skin and with who you are? 
Do you surround yourself with people who lift you up? 
If you answered no to any of these questions... Take a moment, find out why, then turn those negatives to positives!!


You've got a lot of choices. If getting out of bed in the morning is a chore and you're not smiling on a regular basis, try another choice. 
Steven D. Woodhull